In the contemporary world of advanced technology and global interconnectivity – it seems that the kids who grow up in this era will have more opportunities available to them than any generation before. However, if we’re being realistic – the modern social ecosystem also brings its share of parenting challenges and issues. More often than not, parents aren’t sure how to bring up kids who are simultaneously resilient and yet also happy and fulfilled. The most important thing is to get them involved with your prepping activities, teach them homesteading, take them overlanding, etc.
If you show your kids too much devotion and intention, they’ll probably end up not being able to fend for themselves like grownups. And on the contrary, if you give them too little; you risk being an absentee parent who they resent. So, is there a happy medium that you can strike; ensuring that your kids have everything they need, but also being resilient enough for all the challenges they’ll face on their own? Don’t worry – we’ve got a couple of tips on that!
Teach Them Responsibility
In most cases, modern parents are more involved in their kids’ upbringing than their parents were. And this is great in some cases. For example, kids should know that they can share their burdens with their parents, and learn proper communication and relationship building by talking about everything. But at the same time, while kids should know they have your support – it’s one thing to help them go through their issues, and entirely different to solve problems instead of them.
An average teenager does not know a lot about finance and we need to point our kids in the right direction – That means giving children responsibility for their own, strictly defined finances. Give them a set amount of money as an allowance, and make sure they know that they won’t get anything else than this. So, if they want to buy something – they should earn more money on their own, or save up from the allowance. This will teach them to set their own goals as well. And if they make a mistake with their money – don’t correct it for them! Instead, let them learn from their missteps in their youth when almost every kind of mistake is easy to undo.
Don’t Overthink Their Happiness
All of us want our kids to be happy; that’s pretty much a given, and also the way it should be. But while that is a worthy goal all parents aspire to – many of us make the mistake on how we approach it. If you’re too desperate in your desire to raise happy kids – you may be taking on the wrong kind of moral burden.
If you want your kids to be happy, you generally want them to be so even when you’re not around. You need to focus on making them self-sustainable and hard-working individuals. If your kids reach a certain age, you’d serve them better by showing them how to earn extra money on side gigs for their business than by running it for them or just giving them money. While such solutions may seem better, they’re simply less impactful over the long term.
Show The Kids How You Value Them
If there’s one thing that children need to develop above all else during childhood – it’s an acceptance of who they are themselves, and empathy towards others. And both of these things are something that parents have an immense impact on. You need to teach them how to love, both themselves and others – and that means a healthy amount of attention, coupled with utter understanding and unconditional love.
So, once your offspring arrive from school, or you get home from work; put away your tablet or phone, don’t think about your job or meaningless technology – and show them some basic attention. We don’t mean that you should do their homework for them; that’s a bad example. But you should have a real conversation with them, and ask them what their day was like. All in all, they need to realize that they’re important to you in an essential way; on a daily basis.
Teach Them To Do Chores
Sure, all kids hate chores. Heck, that’s something most of us hate even well into adulthood. But that doesn’t mean that chores aren’t important – and that they don’t need to be done. And many parents tend to absolve their kids on taking care of anything around the house; which is definitely a mistake. If you don’t teach your kids to act on their own initiative and see what needs doing around the house; they’re bound to become stagnate in the workplace a couple of decades later.
They’ll be waiting for someone to direct them towards doing something, and that may not come; meaning they will not advance quickly in their careers, or not at all. They won’t have the impulse required to pitch in, roll up their sleeves, and see how they can do more.
Remember The Details
While many people only focus on the big picture when it comes to raising children; it’s actually all about the details – as many proverbs will tell you. If you take the time to teach your child basic things while they’re little on a daily basis, respond to their needs, listen to them carefully; you will find yourself establishing a deeper connection with them than you’d otherwise think.
In fact, research indicates that showing enough interest in a child’s education by the time they’re 10 will result in them being less likely to be unsuccessful when they turn 30. So, if you think that being there for your child in the toughest moments where it counts is enough – it actually isn’t. Daily relationship-building is what leads to long-term success.